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Single Ladies Waiting For the Ring

Saturday, March 13th, 2010

Finding your marriage partner is one of the greatest adventures you will ever have in your life. Being the type of person who will attract the kind of man you are looking for is part of that adventure. Morals and values are the standard here. By holding yourself abstinent from sex, your partner will never have to worry about who a child’s parents are, getting a disease, or that you were promiscuous. Your boundaries for yourself should include the respect of your body, heart, mind and soul.

Many single individuals do not know how to follow a dating process. There are three stages that each married relationship goes through, or should go through. The dating should be the time when two individuals get to know each other, learn about what makes each other tick. This does not mean groping all over each other or letting expressions and affectionate touching get carried away. This often happens way too soon, even before a relationship has a chance to develop. Choosing the man you will eventually spend the rest of your life with should be a decision you take in small steps. You must also decide if marriage is right for you and are you marriage material.

How mature are you? Can you step away from the fairy tale view of marriage and understand the concept of sharing every intimate moment of life with someone who will be with you for all of your lives? When both individuals realize that both people are human with human flaws and foibles, the better off you both will be in learning to adjust to each other as lifetime partners.

Have you met the goals that you set for yourself before leaving high school? Are you as educated as you would like to be? Once you are married, children are a natural desire. Education would have to be put off for a while until the children were not quite so dependent on mom. Prepare yourself for life before you are married. Hold out for the ring from the one who truly loves you. When they love you, they will wait. They believe you are worth waiting for and want sex to happen on your wedding night.

Single life allows you to be somewhat selfish. There is no "I" in TEAM. Holding out for the right man will save you from the heartaches of failures that ended up producing children or hurting both of you so much that you came away with trust issues. Honesty at all times has to be part of this recipe for the rest of your life. Are you ready to be totally honest in your emotions, your love, and fidelity? No marriage can survive without them. The second process transitions into the engagement phase.

Engagement is to prepare both of you for married life. This is the time you both commit to saving money towards the future. A two to three year engagement seems so old fashioned, but the reason there were two to three years of time before the wedding was because they had to save for a house, furniture, land, a vehicle and for household expenses. People took their time to figure out if the relationship could withstand the test of time.

Then, wedding plans are made. Once both individuals figure out that this other person is the one they love with all of their hearts, the engagement ring is joined with a wedding band. This type of love lasts for a lifetime and it is worth waiting for.



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A Single Man’s Life – Some Insights and Observations

Saturday, March 13th, 2010


Enjoying a relationship with someone of the opposite sex is a wonderful and magical journey into love. Starting off as friends and watching your love grow into more than that is the most fantastic experience you can imagine. Who better to have a relationship with than someone who is your best friend?

If you are dating for fun that is one thing. However, make sure that the person that you date understands that you are doing so. Human feelings are fragile and many people who date expect it to become more than a casual experience. If you are dating one person exclusively in hopes that it evolves into a steady relationship they need to know that as well.

Before you begin a relationship with someone there are some things that you must take into consideration to be sure that you are prepared to do so. You, I am sure, will want your relationship to be a healthy and happy one filled with many pleasurable moments. The chances of this happening will increase the more ready you are to have this in your life.

Be sure that you are ready by checking yourself against the following:

Health: Your health is important. No one says that you cannot have a relationship if your health is not up to par, but you should concentrate on getting yourself well first. You need to do this for yourself so that you can enjoy the things that life has to offer, including your relationship with someone.

Finances: Very few people are rich these days, but you need to focus on your financial stability and get this in order. Owing money to someone is an obligation that should be met by working and paying off money that you may owe. This could lead to many extra working hours, which would leave you little time to give to someone else. This is no way to begin a healthy relationship.

Education: The ideal time to get your education is when you are young. If your life goals include earning a degree in a lifelong dream then you should pursue it. This, like working, is also time consuming. Not to say that you could not have a relationship and get an education at the same time, but trying to do so would be difficult. Either your education or your relationship may suffer. It would be better to at least get the majority of your schooling done first before pursuing a relationship with someone.

Relationship Goals: When you are looking to get involved in a relationship take the time to contemplate just exactly what you are searching for. Are you looking for a long-term relationship only for several years or is your mind on bigger things like marrying the person that you are having a relationship with? Are you just looking for a boyfriend or a girlfriend or someone to spend the rest of your life with?

The Person: You need to figure out what kind of a person you are looking for before you take the relationship step. Is it important that the person you are with be a certain religion, such as the same is yours or will you be able to accept the differences in religion? Are you looking for someone with the same interests, likes and dislikes as you? This does tend to make things easier. What type of qualities are you looking for in a mate?

Think these things through long and hard before taking this big step. A relationship with someone can be a highly rewarding experience, but if you have issues that prevent you from being emotionally or physically ready your relationship has a risk of failure.



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10 Indicators of a Serious Relationship

Saturday, March 13th, 2010

The desire for most people in life is to be loved and to be able to offer love to a significant person who unconditional accepts them for who they are. When you are blessed to find yourself in a dating relationship where these signs are beginning to evidence themselves, you want to be sure you are picking up the right signals.

Alternatively you may feel that you are ready to commit and are ready to move into marriage. But before you run away with these feelings you need to ascertain if the feelings are mutual and the relationship is really going somewhere. The question is how do you truly know whether the person you are with is as ready to settle down as you.

Here are some of the points that can help to provide you with some indicators on how committed you and your partner are in taking your relationship to the next level.

  1. You begin to be less "I" focused and more "we" focused
  2. Your life begins to center on him or her. You cannot for one second imagine them not being part of your life. Indeed they are the number one person in your life.
  3. You spend time reflecting on what ways you can make you partner happy rather than thinking about yourself
  4. You imagine you and your partner aging together, spending quality time together and have romantic beach walks
  5. You envision how much fun you will have being parents and grandparents.
  6. You begin to view money differently. Your focus changes for being on short term financial activities to longer term financial activities.
  7. You begin to reduce time with your friends in favor of wanting to spending time with him or her.
  8. Singleness is something that now bores you and your focus becomes more on settling down.
  9. You start to feel the importance of your families meeting and getting along.
  10. Your discussions seemed to be more goals and future driven.

Now none of the points are guarantee that marriage is on the card but they do at least help you to get some tips that the person is interested in taking your relationship to the next level.



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